Thursday, April 16, 2015

Beach Wedding

This weekend I drove down to Hilton Head Island to stand beside two very good friends of ours, as they exchanged their vows with one another. This wedding was supposed to be in June originally but due to a recent diagnosis and treatment plan, it was moved ahead of schedule. My heart sank when I heard our dear friend was diagnosed with breast cancer. The same good friend that was by my wife's side throughout the duration of her battle against melanoma.  Not only was she a huge support to my wife but also to me when I needed a shoulder, a crutch or just an ear to listen to my cries for help or mercy.

Standing next to these two as they exchanged their vows through falling tears, was so beautiful and emotional all together. There were very few dry eyes in the crowd as there heart felt words were read. Their outlook on life and all around them has changed since starting this fight, which is a feeling I know all to well. Some things that were important before no longer carry the same weight, while other things that were not as important to you before carry much more value and meaning. I often wonder if we had insight to adversity or an oncoming storm in our lives how much would we change the way we live or rearrange our priorities. Would it prevent us from becoming complacent, comfortable with simply just being "OK" and would it push us striving to do good and truly live as if tomorrow was not promised.

Since losing you there have been moments that I have been so driven to push harder and do things I have always put off but also moments of crippling weakness that try to disrupt any progress made. One year and four months ago the thought of the future was so scary to me that I avoided it like the plague but standing here now looking back it is not the scary darkness that it used to be. I am still learning to deal with the waves of grief and emotion that roll in at unexpected times trying to knock you down time and time again.

This beach wedding was so good for my heart and I know that you were there with us at the ceremony as well as the reception where I busted out my dance moves you loved so much. I still have two left feet without a doubt, just ask Russ. Jesse's girl was requested by the beautiful bride as she asked me to dance. I was surely missing my beautiful plus one this weekend but I promise you that I was not the only one thinking of you. You are and will always be thought of as well as missed by many my love.

1 comment:

  1. Good to know about this beach wedding. Last month, I arranged my cousin’s wedding at one of amazing Malibu wedding venues. Decorated venue with lovely flowers and beautiful ornaments. We all had lovely time there.