|Adrienne with her bridesmaids|
Monday, November 2, 2015
Moving forward vs. Moving on
For someone who has lost a significant other, moving forward can easily be mistaken for moving on. Moving on is leaving it behind you and forgetting it, the raw emotions the emotional baggage, the memories and just acting like it never happened. Moving forward to me, personally, is pressing forward day by day with these experiences (good or bad), memories, scars and life lessons at my side, in my heart & forever helping guide my future decisions. These will forever be a part of you for the rest of your life molding you and influencing your every decision. What kind of influence they have on you... well, that's entirely up to you. I have experienced both sides.
I choose to move forward not only for me but for my family, my friends and for Adrienne because I know that this is what she would want, as it is what I would want for her. Moving forward does not mean in any way, shape or form that I am moving on, leaving everything behind me because this simply is not the case. For the rest of my life I will carry that label "widower," as well as the scars it came with, but also the priceless lessons it has taught me. Many times I have heard it said that " A person who has found their way out of the darkness of trials, hardships, loss & heartbreak has a view or outlook on life unlike any other person who has not experienced such heart wrenching pain." This has proven to be true in my life without a shadow of a doubt. All of our pains and afflictions are not meaningless and for nothing, they will forever be inside of us influencing every single decision we make in our futures.